Remember how unsure you felt when you first tried to ride a bike … and experienced that strange, new ‘balance in motion’ sensation? — aware that the ‘forward flow’ could easily ‘take you places’, while also inexperienced and unaware of how to reliably steer, control your speed, and keep your balance?
Now, years later … even if you haven’t ridden a bike lately … you somehow ‘know you could still do it’. You may have taught others to ride — and possibly have even uttered “it’s just like riding a bike”, to reassure someone — that other ‘seemingly-complicated’ tasks, ventures & ‘balancing acts’ in life can be ‘easy to do’ once you simply ‘learn how’. Well, guess what? I’m now returning that ‘life-tested & proven’ reassurance to you as well. Like riding a bike, you really can simply learn how to ‘balance your life’ as you go — & you can literally do this anytime, across all seasons, for life (even in this frenetic, fast-changing world).
This sounds far too unlikely to be true. Both processes involve ‘navigation’, yet ‘balancing your life’ seems way more complicated than ‘riding a bike’. It’s no wonder we are so confused: The wide array of ‘life balance’ solutions — from ‘time management’ systems to ‘new age’ meanderings — expand the myth that ‘people & life are too complex’ (& rapidly becoming more so) for a simple life-anchored solution ‘to comfortably lead & support one’s life’ to possibly exist.
Meanwhile, fast-evolving ways are already being used — to instantly & easily connect and communicate globally — across diverse cultures and languages. How can we ‘connect across the planet’ yet feel it’s way too complicated to have reliable tools to ‘comfortably navigate for oneself’ in life? The ‘scope of our growing global connectedness’ may help to understand how a practical method to supportively connect, lead & balance one’s life has now emerged as well.
As with ‘riding a bike’ (or communicating in cyberspace), knowing all the details behind ‘balancing your life’ is unnecessary to get started (i.e. to simply do what it takes, begin to keep your balance, and make progress). Too much ‘helpful’ up front detail can actually discourage people from trying to do this for themselves. Notice this next example:
Years ago, as I taught leadership skills to corporate & public audiences, I was surprised by how easily I could lead others to discover & identify the types of ‘key supports’ or ‘resources’ it takes to consistently perform/do well at virtually any task. I’d simply 1) let them pick any skill-related topic (they’d often chose a hobby or sport), and then 2) have them openly respond to this displayed question: ‘What it takes to be really good at this is ___________________________________________ .’
They routinely would list several items on their own (i.e. ‘motivation’, ‘skills’, ‘materials’, ‘practice’); and they would add other key items (i.e.’information’, ‘time’, ‘space’, ‘feedback’, etc.) with my prompting and support. At the end of this simple exercise, they’d often feel excited & energized to have arrived at the ‘set of clear, life-encompassing elements to achieve at anything’; yet they also remained a bit unsure of how to use this to actually ‘go places’ in life. Like discovering the ‘individual elements’ on a chemistry chart, ‘doing something of value” with just this much knowledge’ remained an intriguing yet distant possibility.
The ‘elements’ do provide the critical foundation, yet there’s something practical & valuable in this lesson: Like riding that bike the first time, just knowing ‘there’s much to explore’ and ‘there are easier & quicker ways to get to places’ can mobilize & begin to take you there … to … & beyond ‘distant possibilities’ — without even knowing at the start all it takes (‘the elements’) to get there.
Remember when you ‘began learning’ on that bike, how quickly you wanted & soon did ‘go ride & explore on your own’? Without fully knowing, you ‘gathered what you needed (e.g. your bike & your senses)’ & ‘did what it took’ to get started, kept trying & continued on. Away you would go … with some trial & error. You began to explore this … & you started to learn…. Soon that initial fear of ‘being out-of-control’ gave way to a welcome sense of ‘harmony in motion’… that supported, stabilized & quickly freed you from any need for ‘training wheels’. ‘New & distant possibilities’ became fast-identified & reached by you.
As we first tried to ride that bike, we realized that a relatively smooth, open surface would make it easier to move along. With this much in place, we continued… to keep trying ….& we soon learned to make adjustments as we’d go … pedal, coast, brake … trying different speeds … in all directions. Before long, we began to choose where we’d go … making progress … & even discovering & learning how to enjoy the journey as we’d go.
If only a person could now do this in life as a whole, huh? Wouldn’t that be something? To actually get to places, learn new things, and comfortably ‘GO’ on? These days? In this crazy world, amidst this technological jungle? Guess what? You really can. For life. We each & all have this opportunity — complete with the supportive resources & easy-to-learn skills — to explore & learn in life, in ways that best individually fit for you as well — literally 4 life. Just ‘knowing that easier ways exist & are evolving’ can be enough to get you going …
Amidst my own share of falls & crashes … I’ve discovered — & have continued to learn & experience — how this ‘balancing act’ plays out … and takes a person farther … in-through-out life. Simply ‘doing this for oneself’ unveils how ‘whatever IT is that we positively want to do’ — whether currently visible or invisible — often really is ‘doable’ (& it can soon become easy-to-do, & as instantly-&-globally-shared as this message). Just choose what you want to do, & get started.
As with many others, the ‘music connection’ has helped me discover how ‘exploring what’s sound yet invisible’ can immediately be accessed, to produce clear, visible, positive outcomes. Check out this brief video I recorded to introduce the ‘music & life leadership’ connection:
Just as ‘trying to turn at a corner on your bike while recklessly speeding’ increases the chances for a crash, ‘trying to turn to balance in your life while rushing ahead unsettled’ increases the odds for disappointing outcomes. Make it your practice to ‘get & stay settled’ before & as you go (whether you’re trying to join, rejoin or continue with the race or the flow). Then GO with the flow at a comfortable pace — always attentive to getting & staying settled. Contrary to our childhood assumptions, you really can do this and still add more fun, focus & spirit to your life.
Like having a clear, smooth surface to learn to ride that bike, ‘a comfortable context’ is the critical foundation to support, explore, learn & do more in life. This extends well beyond beyond riding a bike, playing music, or navigating the Internet … to make it easier to lead & support one’s life as well. Additional support & simple connected steps can & do emerge when the matching context is set. If you’re in doubt about this, go out to nature — & sit patiently by a nearby stream … until you begin to notice how the flow simply seems to continually ‘happen’. ‘Nature’ provides the natural ‘life context’ — the setting — for the flow … to get established & settled … & progress & continue on … with resources & actions … flowing together … at a comfortable, rythmic pace. Chances are you will begin to notice more ‘life’ happening around you as well.
Outside weather conditions & more can change this with time, yet natural existing pathways generally remain in place even as seasonal resource & flow levels change. This is true ‘globally’ & for us individually in life as well. My little dog even seemed to sense the magic of the flow — as you may also notice in this brief video:
Fortunately for all (& despite the current & growing contrary evidence in our world), life itself still does offer a supportive ‘harmony in motion’ context — with clear, connected pathways — for each & all of us to live, flow & grow … with the ongoing (yet often-unrealized) potential to fully & supportively voice one’s spirit in life as we ‘GO LIVE IT’.
We all learn from examples & actions in life. And positive ones can carry us to more that is good. The progressive, positive, ongoing flow of ‘the balance of our 4 seasons’ offers our ‘context for life’ — and our best outside example of ‘harmony in motion’. Your own experience literally forms ‘your life flow’. Take action: Explore life … continue on, for ‘goodness’ sake.
Enjoy this ‘journey called life’. IT really is like riding a bike. Keep your balance … & simply expand your world of experience. Rediscover how distant dreams & remote possibilities can become real experiences for you in life as ‘well’. Just as you can dart, climb, cruise, & coast on your bike …, and you can play, work, receive, & rest in life, as you go…. You really can skip, march, waltz, & shuffle in this ongoing ‘dance called life’. This is less about ‘where you are’ than ‘what you do’, wherever you are. All can be done while keeping your balance — & the combined blend of all will help you enjoy the journey …
Discover more as you continue on… Attend to the ‘quality of the experience’ beyond merely ‘pedaling to reach a destination’. And if you find yourself ‘having to pedal too much’, ‘frequently on a difficult uphill climb’, ‘feeling lost or overwhelmed’, or ‘rarely getting a chance to rest’ — take a break, patiently stroll, wait until conditions change, or proceed in another direction. There really are several ways to proceed in life: Aim to ‘LIVE’: Laugh, Improve, Value Life, Energize with rest. Do this with a changing pace, using a unique blend of ‘compassion’ — patience & passion.
When resources & actions are life-anchored & life-connected, steps become a universal ladder … & barriers form an inviting, supportive bridge to evolving life pathways.
Comfortably lead & support your life … Enjoy the journey …
You really can learn & do this (It’s like riding a bike).
Above all, I wish you ‘WELL’…